Whew, what a whirlwind the last few days have been. Tons of snow, the constant sound of the snowblower blasting through our driveway (boys and their toys). Kids and their endless play of new toys. I had forgotten how much I love UNO. We've played every night since Christmas as a family, usually several rounds. =)
Now here it is Monday! I'm hoping for a Merry Monday cause I have a little bit of an issue. I want to blog about it but I don't want to come across as rude, a bad mom, or anything else. So here it goes. Hopefully I can stay on track.
We have two kids Delaney (5) and Garrett (3). Delaney is my spitting image and Garrett is Jason's so it works out. But it may work out better for Garrett. You see, Delaney has inherited my chubbyness. I know I have joked about it in front of some of you before but seriously it was just joking. Well we have found that it is hard for us to find jeans that will fit Delaney. She has long legs, but she's just thick around the middle. I want her to be comfortable in her clothes and not worry about her butt crack hanging out or not being able to button her pants. I remember all to well what that was like as a kid. Not to mention as an adult. I don't want her to be picked on or bullied because of how she looks. I think she's BEAUTIFUL! She is increadably smart, she's funny, and she's a great friend. Jason and I talk about her weight more often than not lately. And we try to watch what she eats and help her make healthy choices.
Here's where it gets hard. Garrett is tiny, even for 3 he's just a stick so we constantly carry him around, pick him up and tell him he's too skinny. We NEVER turn to Delaney and say you're too chubby, but I think she feels it. Just this weekend, after a fun filled, toy filled, family filled holiday she looked at me and really said: You and Daddy don't like me. My heart was broken. Seriously??? Does she think we don't like her? I don't want her to have a complex at the age of 5~ I want her to be strong and secure in who she is. I constantly tell her I love her, I kiss her all the time, I tell her she's so pretty and how many people tell me that they think she's pretty. But apparently there is something more I need to do.....
The question is WHAT?
I looked into jeans for girls they have a "husky" size for boys but not for girls, I'm going to keep researching for some jeans that she'll feel 100% comfortable in, so she's comfortable in her own skin PERIOD. I want her to know how much Jason and I and lots of others really do love her. I try my darndest to spend good quality time with just her, and I make Jason do the same thing. I guess it's just not enought. Also like me she is overly sensitive and sometimes overly emotional. She can produce tears at the drop of a hat...
Any advice on how I can accomplish a Merry Monday would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks...and if you have negative comments please just keep them to yourself!
1 comment:
No negativity here!! I can totally relate. My dad used to ask me why I ran with all the "skinny" girls? I didnt pick them out that way it just so happened I was "thicker" Am I heavy now? Yes. Yet my husband wouldnt have it any other way. However school kids are mean. Books are good!!! They get on kid levels and explain things better than us parents do sometimes. Research books on kids and wieght..Make the whole house eat healthy even though Garret is little he should still know 'healthy eating" right? so then its not obvious that you are changing up the game for one or the other. Pamper Delaney in other ways as well. Girly things, I think that you do this..It may be a huge issue with another baby coming as well. You could even just ask her whats underneath the phrase she made. She knows that you both love her so maybe its something else!
PS: I have learned recently that due to my "curves" that I have to buy bigger in jeans and then have them altered. Tyra Banks does the same thing! Not sure any of my rambling helps but I feel your pain as a Mom and some one that remembers being that little or not so girl!
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